Human beings are, at their core, emotional beings. We are constantly bombarded with a flood of emotions – some “negative” and some “positive.” But, whether we view them as either negative or positive or somewhere in between, the fact is that they are just emotions. Neither right nor wrong, good nor bad, happy nor sad. They just zip on in and mess with our minds and then, seemingly, they’re gone again.
Sometimes particular emotions are attached to events for us. We feel angry or sad when we argue with someone we love. We feel happy when something good happens to us. We feel proud and euphoric when our kids do well at something. We feel pain and confusion when someone says something mean to us.
But once those direct experiences are over and in the past, the emotions associated with them should be over too, right? Not so fast, there.
Often all it takes is a simple memory of the event and all those emotions associated with the event itself are right back in your face. So we might say that emotions are attached to the memories of an event. In fact they are such a big part of our perception of the event, they are part and parcel of the memory itself.
Strong emotions can also attach themselves to our physical body or our senses. Have you ever caught a whiff of a smell that reminded you of someone from your past? If it’s someone you love or have been in love with, you are all of a sudden filled with all the emotions surrounding that relationship – even if it is from your distant past. Similarly, if you’ve ever had an injury and you feel a twinge in the same spot, all the fear, frustration, anger, etc. associated with that event make it come back to life for you.
It might be said, then, that the emotions themselves serve to anchor the past event in our lives. They keep it alive for us. And, in some cases, keep us from moving on. Eventually, we’re just a big, confusing bundle of past emotions and we’re unable to move on, be free or experience new things. We seem to always end up right back where we started no matter how much and how many ways we try to change. Our strong emotions are always ready to keep us in place and we are paralyzed by our fear of stirring them up again like dust in an old attic.
But there is hope. There are methods we can use to dislodge our stuck emotions in a painless way and gain our freedom again. If that’s something that interests, you let us know. We’ll be happy and honored to help you do just that.